Are you divorced, free and ready to get back into dating? Even if you don't think you're ready, it's probably time to uncover what you don't know about women and start getting experience. Dating after divorce can be both exciting and intimidating. It’s a chance to rediscover yourself and your masculinity. Since you've been out of the game for a while you may not know where to begin. Here are six TRM tips to start.
1. Take Time to DEVELOP GOOD HABITS
Women are attracted to masculinity. Guys who take care of themselves physically, financially, mentally and spiritually. Take time to inventory how you're doing in those parts of your life and start making a list of how you could be doing better. It takes discipline (and an average of 66 days) to develop new habits (gym, diet, saving money, going to bed early, waking up early, staying on your purpose, etc.) but once you've hit your stride your confidence will skyrocket and that is the most attractive trait any man can have.
2. abundance vs. scarcity
One of the easiest concepts to understand but toughest to truly internalize is abundance vs. scarcity. There is no such thing as "the one". After divorce you likely understand that, but too often men jump from marriage or long term relationship (LTR) right into the next LTR. It's usually with the very next girl that's nice to them because they have a scarce mentality when it comes to women. The adage "plenty of fish in the sea" is cheesy but true. To be able to maintain frame in your relationships and be your authentic, masculine self, you have to have an abundance mentality. It probably makes sense but to really comprehend and practice abundance your brain wants proof. The only way is to experience abundance in dating before you commit yourself to another exclusive relationship.
3. MAXIMIZE your strengths
It's likely you've developed some skill, talent, or hobby over the course of your life you can exploit. Women's hypergamous filter constantly has them looking for men that are leaders in their respective hierarchies. Think the quarterback of the HS football team, the lead singer of the band, the boss at work. Status is very intoxicating to women. You don't have to be the CEO, best to ever do it, or most dominant guy in your social circle (although that helps). You just need to have a niche that you're passionate about, work hard at, and differentiates you from other men. The good news it can be almost anything: darts, photography, fitness, cooking, and even video games (sometimes). For every hobby a guy can have, there are women who are into those type of guys. If you're a runner, join a running club where you'll find in-shape women that like to run. If you're into wine, hangout at wine bars. Put your prowess on display.
4. know What You’re Looking For
Dating after divorce is an opportunity to clarify what you want . Take some time to reflect on your values, goals, dealbreakers, and don't compromise on them. You need to realize that you are a prize worthy of any woman and you need to protect your most valuable resources, your time and attention. Are you looking for a casual connection or something long-term? Understanding your intentions can help you filter potential partners and avoid situations that don’t align with your goals.
5. Embrace Online Dating
Online dating can feel daunting, especially if it wasn’t popular the last time you were single. Platforms like Bumble and Hinge offer an easy way to meet women who fit your criteria. The drawback to online apps is it's very competitive. Building a profile that stands out from the competition and learning online Game is something we at The Remodeled Man will help you with. Remember, it’s normal to encounter a few mismatches before finding someone compatible. Treat online dating as a numbers game and an adventure.
6. Be Patient with Yourself and trust the remodeled man Process
Dating can come with its ups and downs. You will gain invaluable insights, make great memories, get over approach anxiety, face rejection with dignity and become an alpha male that has unshakeable frame. Focus on enjoying the process and learning about yourself along the way.
Conclusion
Dating after divorce can be like fishing in a bucket with dynamite if you know what you're doing. You need to unlearn some social conventions, learn female nature, and understand what makes you a valuable man. From there, it's about sourcing prospects and vetting them properly.
If you're looking for someone to help in your post-divorce journey, reach out to me here for a free chat.
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